離婚しないという選択

今日は、調査とはちょっと違う視点での

お話です。

 

最近、夫婦問題を解決して愛され妻になった

という方のブログやメールマガジンで

いろいろと勉強をしています。

 

夫婦問題も親子問題も恋愛の関係も

大きな枠で捉えたら人間関係なんですね。

 

人間関係ってどんな関係が正しいという

答えがないんです。

どんなに仲よさそうなご家族でもご夫婦でも

何もないということはないです。

 

知人に幸せで仕方のない70代後半のご夫婦が

いらっしゃいます。

ずっと幸せなご夫婦だったかというと

ある意味そうである意味そうではありません。

 

ご主人の早期退職、重い病気。

 

浮気問題はなかったようですが、二人で

乗り越えた苦難はいろいろとあったそうです。

 

乗り越えた先の幸せかなとおっしゃっていました。

 

浮気問題は浮気された側は悔しいけれど、克服できない

苦難というわけでもありません。

 

メールマガジンである本が紹介されていました。

 

浮気やDV、5年の別居などを経て離婚しないという

決断にいたった方のお話です。

 

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2月に発刊された新しい本のようです。

私のおすすめはできるだけ最新の本を買われた方が

良いと思います!

思いこみや既成概念を覆してくれる内容が多く、

とても勉強になるからです。

 

よければ手に取ってみてください。

 

 

 

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